Why Does Everyone Thinks It Was My Choice For Being Different ?
, Posted in: Photographers, Author: admin (January 31, 2010)
I really don’t understand why people thinks it is my choice to be different from everyone else. I’m a crossdresser and i enjoy cross dressing in womens clothes like skirts and dresses with some shoes like pumps heels and stiletto heels. It looks like i was born that way at birth but i wasn’t like this before. It started when i was in high school at 16 years old when i saw other girl’s wearing some fabolus clothes and i decided to wear some on halloween and from there on i started wearing girl’s clothing. I’m dressed in girls’ clothing all of the time now, i wear make up and a wig with my clothes and i have lots of friends who are girls and they love hanging out with me. But some people like guys said that it was my choice for wearing girl’s clothing. It is actually not i believe i used to be a woman in my past life so that’s why i’m like this. I’m 18 years old now and on graduation day i wore a dress with some heels for the graduation ceremony and i felt very confident in my heels. My parents were upset at first but they’ve learned to accept me and they took a picture with me in my cap and gown. My little sister was also in the picture too. Why does eveyone thinks it’s my choice when it’s the way god made me ?? I often get bashed too but i don’t care because i have friends who love me for who i am and i think society sohuld learn to accept me too.
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You sound confused. For instance you say, “I was born that way”, and then “it started when I was in high school”. You also say, “I believe I used to be a woman in my past” yet you have no memory of your past life as a woman. And if reincarnation was true then you probably had some past lives as men and some as women. Furthermore, every person in the world would have past lives too and every person would be expressing the same behavior as you. Still, reincarnation is not supported by science.
More likely, you are a victim of your own fetish. Your brain is hard-wired to release dopamine and other neurotransmitters when you feminize yourself. These neurotransmitters produce sensations of well-being, pleasure, sexual gratification, and self-identity. The affect the reward centers of your brain, so it mimics the addiction response. You can’t stop your brain from releasing neurotransmitters, so you believe that you need to cross-dress.
Like all fetishes, your cross-dressing is a means of satisfying your need for sexual contact without any intimate relationships. It is a flight from intimacy. You love inanimate objects. That is not healthy.
People with compulsive fetish behavior often have problems with relationships. You may find yourself uncomfortable at parties. You probably have problems finding a girlfriend. You are probably an introvert. You need to develop your social skills and stop using your cross-dressing as an excuse. Learn how to be a party person. Learn how to dance. Learn how to tell jokes and be funny.
You are not a victim. There is no fetish that cannot be managed. Stop playing the role of the victim and start taking charge of your life.
Love, it’s not a bad choice, but it was your choice.
When you saw girls wearing awesome clothes, and you wanted to wear them too. It was your choice to be different.
Bravo,
At least SOMEONE is being different and making their own decisions.
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